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Are you sabotaging yourself?

Are you sabotaging yourself?

Have you ever had that feeling of wanting something so bad but no matter how hard you try you seem to be just out of reach of your destination?

Consciously, you may feel you are in the right place, have the right mindset and you are doing all the right things. The goals are written down; they’re achievable and realistic, there is a plan of action to move forward, you’re motivated and you know what your why is. It’s exciting times! Everything should fall into place quite easily – why wouldn’t it?

But, for some reason, something is stopping you from getting what you truly desire, or it seems like there are constant obstacles. It may make no sense at all, which makes it all the more frustrating. So, what is it that is stopping you from reaching your goals?

There are a variety of reasons why your goals always seem to be just out of reach, but there is one thing which underpins them all – self-sabotage.

It is truly amazing how people can go out of their way to self-sabotage and have no idea they are doing it. Self-sabotage behaviours can present themselves in many ways but here is a list of some of the more common ones. Can you recognise any of them within yourself?

  1. Procrastination
  2. Self-Defeating Mindset – “I’m going to fail”. “It’s too hard”
  3. Failure to Act – Running Away, Hiding or Freezing
  4. Forced Incompetence or performing below capabilities
  5. Emotional Eating
  6. Going out of your way to harm yourself or others
  7. Drug and Alcohol Abuse
  8. Self-Pity
  9. Impulsive Spending
  10. Unnecessary Self-Sacrifice
  11. Being the Victim
  12. Physical and Mental neglect
  13. Sabotaging Relationships
  14. Refusing to accept help or asking for help.
  15. Suppressing Emotions
  16. Indecisiveness
  17. Excessive Worrying
  18. Isolating Yourself from Others
  19. Acting to your disadvantage
  20. Negative habits.

What many people don’t realise is that self-sabotage is unconscious and usually stems from their self-worth, belief systems and old programming. The biggest challenge is recognising when you are being the self-saboteur and how they present themselves in your life. It’s usually only ever an issue when you are trying to reach a goal and not having any success.

If you are feeling like you are not moving in the direction that you want, then that’s when it’s worth seeking some professional help to identify what is holding you back and developing ways to move forward.

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